I am Gay, and the same issues exist on the gay scene. Why the polarization? Gender exists on a spectrum. It can be both culturally defined and biological. I do believe that there such a thing as toxic behaviour and mindset. Who are these people stating that to show emotions is weak? Are they those who display behaviours that one can define as being toxic? Are toxic behaviours gender specific? I do whatever I feel is true to myself. I do this whilst extending the same level of respect that others show me.